My babymother is too miserable

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you because I am faced with a problem. I am 37 years old and I have fathered three children.

They are all doing well. One of them will be leaving me to join her mother in America. The mother of the other two lives in Jamaica and we have a very good relationship. She is married and whenever I have to talk to her, her husband does not have any objection. We are cricketers on the same team. He is a good man.

I have even given him money to give to the children's mother and he has passed the money on to her. They seem to be getting along fine. I have given him money to give to her twice. But the children's mother has asked me to hold the money and not to give him because once I gave him $30,000 to give to her and when he handed her the envelope, at that very moment, he asked her to lend him $20,000. She could not object because she had just got that money from me.

This woman and I broke up because she was too jealous. Every woman I spoke to while we were friends, she accused me of going to bed with them. That was far from the truth. My wife knows everything. Whatever money I send to the children, I let her know. Whenever the children have come to see me, my wife treats them very well. Sometimes they call her to discuss their schoolwork because my wife is a math teacher.

Recently the children wanted to attend a play and their mother did not agree to let them go. They called to talk to me about it and I wasn't at home so they spoke to my wife. She called their mother and told her that she would take them to the show and then take them home after. I am happy that my wife and the children's mother get along very well. I am so happy about that.

My present wife was made for me and my babymother's husband was made for her, because whenever I ask him how she is doing, he tells me that she is miserable as ever. I could not deal with that and she is too jealous.

A.K.

Dear A.K.,

It is said that all women are jealous and some say all men are jealous. Jealousy runs in everybody's veins, so to speak, but one can be overly jealous. Their jealousy may cause them to commit murder.

I am glad that your present wife gets along very well with the mother of your two children who are living with her. Take good care of your wife. I am also glad that you get along well with your babymother's husband. You say both of you belong to the same cricket team. I am glad there is no animosity between the both of you.

Pastor